things i’ve learned

“Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realize that nothing really belongs to them.” 

– Paulo Coelho

The moment after Kellan died, I had so much regret. I had wasted so much energy and thoughts on things that truly did not matter in my life. So I started writing.

I wrote these words from the day Kellan died, until the day we had his private memorial service. I read them at his service.

The other day, I was having a crazy work day, and was emotional. I opened a notebook randomly and found a paper folded in half, placed carefully in the back of the notebook. It was the words I had written & read. What a wonderful reminder of what my son has taught me about life.

I think Kellan knew I needed a reminder of the things I have learned from him. I am going to read this weekly, so I continue to remember. And so I share it with you, in hope that it helps you when you’re having a difficult day.

Things I have learned from my son, Kellan Albert Langer:

Everything does not happen for a reason. 

People are not placed in your life by accident. Every person you cross paths with, even briefly, has a purpose.

Stop wasting energy on things that don’t actually matter.

The issues or annoyances that seem like such a big deal in the moment, aren’t. 

Being angry about things that occur in your life that you cannot control, and letting them control your day to day activities is a complete waste.

Stop being in such a hurry. Enjoy the little things.

On what feels like your worst day, you are still so incredibly lucky to live the life you live. 

You can love someone with your entire soul and physical being without even realizing it.

No matter how much you feel your heart has shattered, it will still continue to beat.

As you walk through this world, you truly never know how much pain a person you pass by is in.

You are so much stronger then you will ever know.

I will love you for eternity KAL 💙