#kellankares

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is every wasted.”

-Aesop

I have cried often lately – but tears of joy. What a strange feeling to cry tears of joy.

As soon as I opened my account to start this post, and I typed the words #kellankares, I immediately began to cry.

I’m not sure why. I truly can’t put words to it. Tears are flowing, and I keep trying to understand why. Sometimes we just don’t know.

Tomorrow is the official day for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness. I was fortunate enough to have the City of Aberdeen recognize this day and honor the Mothers of Angels with a proclamation. I am incredibly proud that I was able to do this.

Leading up to tomorrow, the Podcast I’m on (@thosecoacheswives) did the last 2 episodes on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness. For the first time in my life, I publicly spoke about what happened with Kellan and my journey the last year. The two episodes were very powerful, and I am so proud that I was able to share my experience and hopefully help others who are going through what I have been through.

If you’d like to listen – we are on iTunes Podcasts and Spotify. I think it truly does give a deeper and more raw truth to my story then I can express through my writing. I’ve embedded them if you’d like to listen:

One thing I hit on that I think is so important to continue to talk about is the “safe zone”. When a woman gets pregnant – it’s common knowledge to wait until she is 12 weeks along to announce her pregnancy to the world. But why?

THERE IS NO SAFE ZONE. If we haven’t learned this by now, I don’t know what it will take to learn. So why 12 weeks?? And why wait?? So that if you suffer a sad and tragic miscarriage you have to suffer alone knowing what happened to you? So you don’t have to go through the “embarrassment” of revealing to the world that you suffered a loss?

This. Makes. No. Sense.

I wish we could change this stigma. I wish we could give love and support to women and men, and families who lose their children at all stages. It is heart-wrenching and no one should ever feel ashamed for their experience. I hope someday, we can in fact change this.

But tomorrow, tomorrow I will spread love. I will spread kindness. And most importantly I will spread awareness in my son’s memory. And then at 7pm – I will join others all over the world and light a candle for Kellan.

The Wave of Light is a creative concept based on progressive candle lightings all around the world at 7 pm on October 15^th. These candles are lit in memory of the babies who have died too soon. If you’d like, feel free to light a candle and share it.

I plan to spread so much love tomorrow – will you join me?

You can download and print your #KellanKares cards easily by clicking the download button below: